James' funeral was today and Elliott was blessed with the chance to share about his dad, and took the opportunity to share the Gospel with all those in attendance. Thank you to all that were covering this morning in prayer, Elliott was bold and courageous, the kids were a blessing to many cheerfully serving and encouraging family and friends with their antics. Below is what Elliott shared:
Thank
you all for joining us this morning to celebrate the life of my dad. I have often heard of funerals being called
celebrations but didn’t fully understand what that meant until recently. I would like to share just one story with you
today.
During a visit with my dad in
August, I asked him how he was feeling and he said “lousy”. I told him I
understood, it’s no fun to have little to no control over your entire body and
be totally dependent on someone else to care for you, but what a beautiful
picture of Jesus that is. I asked dad if
he would mind if I shared the need for Jesus with each of you attending today
and he said “yes, I think you should”.
A verse
that many of us know by heart is Romans 8:28 – “And we know that God causes all
things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called
according to His purpose.” We say this to each other during times just like
these, as well as when things just don’t seem to be going our way. For a long
time, I thought that the “good” that is being spoken of here was something I
would like. But when we keep reading this passage, we learn about what God
Himself calls good, Romans 8:29 – “For those whom He foreknew, He also
predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son, so that He would be
the firstborn among many brethren.”
Some
might ask how dad getting cancer at the young age of 70 is good, and while we
may never know for sure, let me share with you why I feel like God allowed for
my dad to develop brain cancer.
Dad was always involved
in the community. He loved volunteering,
announcing, officiating sporting events, driving school buses, singing in the
choir, church council, you name it, dad loved serving others. However, the Bible teaches us that good works
do not make us a Christian nor will they allow us to enter heaven.
Martin Luther explains
it this way:
The first and chief
article is this: Jesus Christ, our God and Lord, died for our sins and was
raised again for our justification (Romans 3:24-25). He alone is the Lamb of
God who takes away the sins of the world (John 1:29), and God has laid on Him
the iniquity of us all (Isaiah 53:6). All have sinned and are justified freely,
without their own works and merits, by His grace, through the redemption that
is in Christ Jesus, in His blood (Romans 3:23-25). This is necessary to
believe. This cannot be otherwise acquired or grasped by any work, law, or
merit. Therefore, it is clear and certain that this faith alone justifies us...Nothing
of this article can be yielded or surrendered, even though heaven and earth and
everything else falls (Mark 13:31).
I believe that dad
understood this, but didn’t believe it in his heart until that morning in March
of last year. Let me explain by
reading from my wife Denise’s blog dated July 7, 2011:
I have always
gotten a kick out of my father-in-law. He is a retired principle, standing
6'6" with a booming bass voice, I always imagined how terrified I would
have been of him had he ever been my elementary school principle. He was such a
beloved principle, some of his students still keep in touch with him today,
some 30 years later.
James and I have always been good about teasing
each other. He always shares recipes with me that he thinks would be "interesting"
and he still insists I should have named Hannah, "Zelda Nadine", so
he calls her that from time to time. We love talking about a myriad of
subjects, but I think he purposefully picked topics that "get me
going" just to see me get all riled up.
When James had a car accident in March and was
in the ICU, we were blessed by many friends at church who made it possible for
us to be at his side almost continually during the first few days of
uncertainty. All we knew was he had driven into another car and then had a
seizure. We were thankful to be there for Elliott's parents, to pray with them
and run errands for food or whatever was needed.
The second night in the hospital, I had the
opportunity to stay with him in his room, my mother-in-law needing some sleep
after more than 36 hours of being on duty. I don't know what I expected, but I
didn't plan for being awake the entire night. James was easily agitated, I
would chat with him to try to calm him down. His sleep was fitful, so I prayed
for him. At one point I thought to start reading the Bible to him. Elliott had
left me with his iPad. I used it, in the dark hospital room, to read through
the entire book of Psalms (skipping the imprecatory Psalms) and some of the New
Testament. Every time I was reading, James would fall into a peaceful sleep.
Before the staff kicked me out at 6am, I told
James I was going to leave and reminded him that his wife would be there soon.
He started crying. I wasn't sure what was going on. We talked for a few minutes
about how he was worried about what was going to happen to him. I reminded him
of all the medical things we knew... the tests they had run, the things they
had ruled out, what they were looking for next, etc... but he was still upset
and restless. I asked him if he was afraid of something else. He said yes. I
asked him if he was afraid of going to hell. He said yes.
I know that what happened next was from the Lord
because I could not quote it or give a word for word account of what I said or
what Bible verses I referenced. But I shared the Gospel. I spoke of how we are
sinners, guilty before God. I spoke of what the punishment is that we deserve
(hell) and God's unbelievable gift of Christ coming as a man, to live the life
we live but perfect and without sin, how Christ was hung on a tree in our
place, and His glorious triumph over the grave. James has been active in his
local church his whole life, but he was lacking an assurance of his salvation.
I shared with him how Elliott, even after saying the "sinner's prayer"
in 1999 was just recently and mercifully saved, when he called upon Jesus as
LORD in August 2008.
For two days everyone had been praying for him,
and over him, and with him. I asked James if he wanted to pray. I told him this
was something no one else could do for him. And so, he prayed for himself. I
could tell James was repentant, I have been married to Elliott for 11 years and
can't remember another time I have seen his dad tear up, much less cry. He
prayed and afterwards he was much more calm, a weight had been lifted off.
Over the last couple of months it has been
precious to see him cherish things which never seemed to impact him before. He
has been reading selections during church services for years but recently has
been emotionally overwhelmed as he reads them, marveling at all God has done
for him. He gives me the tightest hugs now, I feel my back pop. And we talk of
the eternal now, of God's Sovereignty and His perfect care for us.
This is why I believe God allowed this
cancer to touch dad. This cancer was no
surprise to our omnipotent God. In the months after dad was released
from the hospital, I saw such a joy in him that I had never seen before. He was truly modeling the fruits of the
spirit described in Galatians 5, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness,
goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Despite all of the medications he was on,
with many of them stating the side effects as anger, aggression, etc, dad never
once complained about his cancer. He
never got angry.
In fact, in these past
18 months the conversations that I have had with dad were more meaningful than
any other before. He even asked Denise
to be his personal barber, giving him regular haircuts and shaving. Now that is certainly showing gentleness!
Our family’s prayer and hope for each
of you today, is that if you do not know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior that
you would hear the words of Romans 10:9-13 and know “that if you confess with
your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from
the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in
righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation. For the
Scripture says, ‘Whoever believes in Him will not be disappointed.’ For there
is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is Lord of all,
abounding in riches for all who call on Him; for ‘Whoever will call on the name
of the LORD will be saved.’”
